About the Book
"The Lady, Her Lover, Her Lord" by T. D. Jakes is a Christian self-help book that explores the relationship between a woman, her partner, and God. It discusses how women can strengthen their faith, self-worth, and relationships by prioritizing their connection with God. Jakes emphasizes the importance of spiritual growth and communication in romantic relationships to achieve true fulfillment and happiness.
Susannah Spurgeon
Susannah Spurgeon was the wife of the famous Baptist preacher of the second half of the nineteenth-century, Charles Haddon Spurgeon.
She was born Susannah Thompson in January, 1832. Her early years were spent in London, where she often accompanied her parents or elderly friends to the New Park Street Chapel. She was converted upon hearing a sermon at the old Poultry Chapel by Rev S. B. Bergne from Romans 10:8 â âFrom that service I date the dawning of the true light in my soulâ. But her initial joy was replaced by âseasons of darkness, despondency, and doubtâ, and it was not until she was helped by the new, youthful, pastor of New Park Street â Spurgeon â that she found âthe peace and pardon [her] weary soul was longing forâ.
Her friendship with Spurgeon grew, and they were married in January 1856. Their twin sons, Charles Jr. and Thomas, were born in September, 1857.
Susannah became a true partner in her husbandâs ministry. Spurgeon would call his âwifeyâ to come and help him on Saturday afternoons. Together they would read commentaries and discuss the Scripture for the next dayâs sermon. If he was discouraged, she would read to him. She counselled women and girls in the church and assisted female candidates at baptismal services. Her activities were restricted at times when she became chronically ill in the late 1860s, and was often confined to her room, or visited Brighton for relief.
In 1875, when she had proof-read the first volume of her husbandâs book Lectures to My Students, she expressed a desire to âplace it in the hands of every minister in Englandâ â and so began the ministry of her Book Fund. Within a year, over 3000 volumes of theological books had been distributed by the Fund; by the time of her death, over 200,000 volumes had been sent out. Today, the supplying of theological books free to ministers and missionaries continues through the Book Fund of the Banner of Truth Trust, modelled upon that started by Susannah Spurgeon.
Susannahâs work expanded to include other ministries, such as the Pastorsâ Aid Fund and the Westwood Clothing Society.
In her remaining years, following Charlesâ death in 1892, she assisted Joseph Harrald in compiling C.H. Spurgeonâs Autobiography and also wrote a number of devotional books, including Free Grace and Dying Love, published by the Trust (which volume contains a Life of Susannah Spurgeon by Charles Ray). She died in October, 1903, after a severe attack of pneumonia from which she never recovered.
if you could see the end - the story god writes in suffering
A strange grief crept upon me as the final Lord of the Rings  movie came to an end. An unliterary man at the time, I watched the doors to Middle Earth close. The story would not continue. A sense of silliness accompanied the sadness. Why should a boy, let alone a young man, lament saying goodbye to an imaginary friend whom he knew all along to be imaginary? This is exactly what great stories do to us. Whether captured on screen or between covers of a book, to finally arrive at the end can seem as though palace doors were closing to us. The adventure concludes â with all its dangers, losses, courage, companionship, thrill, and great loves worth living and dying for. They leave us again, to our world. As credits roll, we are made to feel like we are leaving the momentous, the beautiful, the good, and returning to, well, the ordinary. But what if the ache one feels at the conclusion of these tales, the bitter loss in the happily ever after, is not unreality mocking, but Reality inviting? Keep Your Hobbitry What if epic stories cast a spell, not because they are fictional, but because they stir suppressed longings that we just might, in fact, live in such a Story? Perhaps we all hunger to be characters in a grand Story, a heroic tale, a high Romance, a story without end. âHe has,â after all, âput eternity into manâs heartâ (Ecclesiastes 3:11). The lines between our favorite stories and our own story in this life may be thinner than we have yet dreamed. J.R.R. Tolkien himself captures this in a letter to his son, Christopher, who was serving in the Air Force during World War II: Well, there you are: a hobbit amongst the Urukhai [a deadly enemy]. Keep your hobbitry in heart, and think that all stories  feel like that when you are in  them. You are inside a very great story! (183) Do you know yourself to be in a very great story? Do the elves and kings, the lovers and heroes, the characters of your favorite tales have a right to envy you? Until we smile at and embrace the story we find ourselves in, we will not have the hope, the joy, the strength to live to the fullest in this life â and then everlastingly in the next. Designed for Story We are a people of story â delighted by them, taught by them, shaped by them. We starve for meaning. We long for dots to connect. For a golden Thread to run through. Otherwise, we are left in bitter realms of nothingness. âWe are a people of story â delighted by them, taught by them, shaped by them.â To reckon with life among us, we search for the Story beyond us. From the beginning, many claimed to do just that. Different prophets from different peoples brought down different explanations from tall mountains to interpret the joys and horrors, hills and valleys, sunrays and shadows of this life. Ancient myths rode to meet ancient desires not so easily filled in hearts hungering for forever. Shared stories made up culture. Shared stories made up religion. Men lived from story and died for story â stories designed to provide answers to lifeâs biggest questions. And hope needs answers that Story provides. The marketplace is full of stories, of worldviews trying to answer those great questions for us. Andrew Delbanco, in his meditation on hope, identifies that the general narrative that united Americans has shifted from a story about God, to that of nation, to that of self. We have moved from the cross, to the flag, and now landed on the narrow and perilous path of me . Of all people at all times, none has been more driven by story than followers of Christ. Even if an angel came down from heaven with a new story, we would refuse it with disdain (Galatians 1:8). And yet, while we often remain orthodox, despair still emerges when we focus solely on the real sadness in our single sentence called life, and our hearts forget the tale beyond. Hope, however, considers that sentence in the whole Story, a Story written by one who did not spare his own Son. Hope reaches past the groans, for that part of the Story with no more sin, no more suffering, no more separation. Joseph: A Case Study Hope stays attuned to Godâs Story, because it withers with forgetting. Take as a test case of someone who didnât sink in the swamp of self, an Old Testament man of God, Joseph. His life is full of many valleys. Betrayed, assaulted, and sold into slavery, Joseph found himself in Potipharâs house. After being exalted to Potipharâs right hand, Joseph is sexually harassed, falsely accused, and sent to prison. After correctly interpreting one of Pharaohâs servantâs dreams, he is betrayed and forgotten. And then after two more long years in prison, he is exalted to become âa father to Pharaohâ (Genesis 45:8). His human story â full of abuse, betrayal, accusation, and lies â fell purposefully within Godâs bigger story, and he knew it . When he reveals his identity to his brothers who sold him, he says to his brothers, âCome near to me, please.â And they came near. And he said, âI am your brother, Joseph, whom you sold into Egypt. And now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me  before you to preserve life. For the famine has been in the land these two years, and there are yet five years in which there will be neither plowing nor harvest. And God sent me  before you to preserve for you a remnant on earth, and to keep alive for you many survivors. So it was not you who sent me here, but God . He has made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house and ruler over all the land of Egypt.â (Genesis 45:4â8) He and his brothers knew his story. Twice he acknowledges what was obvious to them all: â You  sold me here.â Joseph had not forgotten the nights â the years â in prison away from friends and family, the horror of their closing ears to his pleading as they cast him in the pit, their cruelty to sell him to those who would mistreat and perhaps murder him. The darkness, though past, was still dark. Memories remained. But when he calls them near, he remembers more than just his story as seen from ground level â and this gives power to forgive and love his guilty brothers. He tells them not to be distressed or angry with themselves. Why? â For God sent me  before you to preserve life.â In their selling, God was sending. In their evil, God intended good. In the darkest scene of the play, God was still writing. That Story smothered bitterness and revenge. That Story and its Author allowed him to forgive, bless, and love where a different story would have had him calculate the wrongs, grip firmly the treachery, and use his power to exact revenge. And the Story gave him hope for the future promises of his God, recorded as the radiant triumph of his life in Hebrews 11: âBy faith Joseph, at the end of his life, made mention of the exodus of the Israelites and gave directions concerning his bonesâ (Hebrews 11:22). He knew, as those of us who fall asleep in the Lord do as well, that we shall wake in the Promised Land. When Elves Envy Men Although it may not feel  like it, we live in a very great story. Have we forgotten? âWe, in America, have moved from the cross, to the flag, and now landed on the narrow and perilous path of me.â Our hearts grow accustomed to the extraordinary as it becomes familiar. We lose a sense of where we live when we can drive home without a map. Life no longer invigorates. Godâs epic plays out all around us, and he draws us in to play our part, and yet we halfheartedly read our lines or escape into other peopleâs lives. We are bored. But awake, we  live in a great Story. Wild and throbbing with adventure, trying and terrible at parts. Eternity hanging in the balance. A fierce Dragon threatens. Demons surround. Hell gapes. The Light still shines in the darkness. Angels assemble. The Spirit animates. Christians stand clad in armor. The church marches on hades. Judgment hastens. Salvation is ready to be revealed. The True King â whose sandals no other character is worthy to unlatch â has died for sinners and lives forevermore. He is coming. This tale plays out on earth in what we blaspheme and call âordinary.â With all its details and drudgery, its paying bills and crying babies, its baseball games and rush-hour traffic, an eternal drama plays. One that draws heavenâs attention. Angels  ache to leave the theater. You are on the inside of a very great Story â a story to be remembered, cherished, and clung to during the most difficult scenes. Is there any other tale you would rather find was true?