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About the Book
"Boundaries for Leaders" by Dr. Henry Cloud explores the importance of setting boundaries as a leader to create a productive and healthy work environment. Cloud provides practical strategies and tips for leaders to establish clear boundaries, foster accountability, and cultivate a positive organizational culture. The book emphasizes the impact of effective leadership boundaries on improving team performance, communication, and overall success in the workplace.
Jackie Hill Perry
Jackie Hill Perry has a way with words, and people canāt stop listening. A gifted poet, rapper, writer, and teacher, she has written books and Bible studies, released hip-hop albums, and taught at events, conferences, colleges, and coliseums all over the nation. Inspired by her powerful testimony of salvation and deliverance from a gay lifestyle and her teaching on the holiness of God, the word is out: God is good, He is Lord, and those who surrender to Him are made new.
The Power of God
Itās a message Jackie is passionate about because she knows firsthand the transformational power of Jesus Christ. She and her husband ā fellow spoken-word artist, Preston Perry ā met in 2009 while performing at an artistās showcase. Impressed with Jackieās poetry, Preston struck up a friendship that deepened over the years. Eventually, they began dating, which presented significant challenges but also great rewards. The Lord used Preston as a source of healing, and marriage forced Jackie to deal with hurts and fears sheād been reluctant to give to God. The couple, who reside in Atlanta, married in 2014. They are now the parents of three daughters: Eden, Autumn, and Sage; and are expecting a son.
A decade ago, Jackie could never have imagined marriage, motherhood, and ministry in her future. Violated and abandoned by men who should have loved and protected her, Jackie was hurting. Fear and distrust kept watch over her heart. Surrender wasnāt an option, even when a loving God promised her new life. Despite some exposure to church and to Scripture, Jackie was adamant that she would never submit to Jesus as Lord.
Her attraction to women started in early childhood and intensified during adolescence. Jackie finally gave in to same-sex desires, along with drugs and other habits that brought comfort, pleasure, and an emotional escape. Suppressing her femininity by wearing menās clothing and assuming the male role in dating relationships, Jackie says every area of her life was characterized by sin and rebellion against God.
Then one evening, 19-year-old Jackie felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Recalling the experience, she says, āIt was a God thing. No one can ever tell me that I saved myself. I had some understanding of Jesus and obedience and Christianity. But I sincerely wanted nothing to do with God on His terms.ā
Even as she resisted, Jackie clearly sensed the Lord speaking to her. āWhen He showed me that all of my sin would be the death of me ā that it was true that the wages of sin is death, but it was equally true that God offered eternal life if I would repent and believe ā I was compelled to trust Him. For the first time in my life, I knew that God was real and He was worth it. Just the day before, my heart was hard as a rock, and now I wanted Jesus. Only the Holy Spirit could have done that.ā
āFor the first time in my life, I knew that God was real and He was worth it. Just the day before, my heart was hard as a rock, and now I wanted Jesus. Only the Holy Spirit could have done that.ā
The Power of Words
Jackie dove into Godās Word and began discovering the woman He designed her to be ā mind, body, and spirit. Seeking to express herself in deeper, more artistic ways, she began writing poetry. Jackie didnāt shy away from revealing her past or the ongoing struggle with temptation and sin. Her poems unflinchingly spoke gospel truth and glorified God as the ultimate source of love and life. After connecting with the Passion for Christ Movement (P4CM), Jackie was asked to write a poem about being an ex-lesbian. Hesitant at first, she felt the Lord prompting her to move forward. Through its confessional lyrics and rock-solid theology, My Life as a Stud shined a spotlight on Jackieās conversion and marked the beginning of her public ministry.
āWhen My Life As a Stud came out in 2009, so many gay and lesbian people who didnāt go to church, didnāt trust Christians, and didnāt want to have anything to do with the Bible clicked on the poem and suddenly wanted Jesus. I realized God had given me this art form where Iām able to speak to peopleās hearts.ā
Since then, she has taken the message of Godās love to artist showcases, faith-based conferences, college campuses, and major media outlets. The foundation of her message is always the Word of God: In His goodness, God created male and female. As the perfect designer of gender and sexuality, God is worthy of trust and obedience. Although same-sex attraction is central to her testimony, Jackie emphasizes that the church should approach the LGBTQ community the same way it approaches other people. Everyone is created to be an image-bearer of the living God with a unique identity and great worth. Rather than labeling someone as āa gay friend,ā itās important to develop genuine, one-on-one relationships the same way Jesus did. By investing in authentic friendships, Christians will be able to share the gospel because theyāre actually modeling it.
The Power of Redemption
Jackie points out that being ādead in sinā goes far beyond someoneās sexual preference. Without Christ, people are lost in every way. But when Jesus gives new life, He forgives and redeems the whole person. She says, āGod saved me from sin, not just my sexuality. I was an all-around sinful person. In essence, sin was my lord. As much as I loved women in a lustful way, I also loved pornography and drugs, bitterness and unforgiveness.ā
Through discipleship, Jackie recognized the holistic nature of Godās redemption. āIāve learned that pride is one of my greatest struggles, even more so than same-sex attraction,ā she explains. āPride manifests itself in so many areas of my life, itās hard to keep up. God didnāt just rescue me from being gay. He saved me from believing Iām a better lord than He is.ā In response to the growing debate over same-sex attraction and the frequent questions she receives when people hear her testimony, Jackie wrote her first book, Gay Girl, Good God, to serve three core groups: people seeking to help and understand those within the LGBTQ community; people within the community who may disagree with some of her conclusions but are still intrigued; and people who are believers, yet have same-sex attraction and are trying to figure out how to love Jesus while dealing with those feelings.
When asked what she hopes the church learns from the book, she says, āI want people to see that how you reach the LGBTQ community is the same way you reach anybody ā with the gospel. The gospel is about God. The method shouldnāt be any different when youāre speaking to someone who is dealing with gluttony or lying or lust. Itās all the same. God is Lord, Heās Master, Heās King, Heās able to save. And the problem with sin is always a problem between us and God.ā
"God is Lord, Heās Master, Heās King, Heās able to save. And the problem with sin is always a problem between us and God."
The Power of Community
Jackie hopes the church will develop greater empathy for same-sex individuals and recognize how difficult it is to walk away from the gay lifestyle. She says, āItās not a random sin that is easily put off. The feelings are real, and it takes time and work and a long process of dying to self.ā Without a supportive church family to encourage and affirm her, the author might have fallen away. The first couple of years as a Christian were the hardest. Jackie had to learn to put off the old nature and put on Christ. The process required spiritual and physical discipline. She had to shop for womenās clothing, an experience that made her feel strange, vulnerable, and afraid.
Temptation was a constant source of condemnation, at times pushing Jackie into depression and doubt as she grieved over her sinful nature. After a decade of growing in Christ, Jackie still faces temptations but says theyāre more subtle and easier to flee. Instead of looking at women as objects of lust, she chooses to see them as image-bearers of God. In evaluating her walk with the Lord, she considers whether she is loving people well, growing in holiness, and bearing good fruit. And she looks to Jesus, who endured the horror of the cross because He loved God with all of His heart. Knowing Jesus didnāt want the cup of suffering, yet accepted it with humility, helps Jackie run the Christian race with endurance.
Endurance and spiritual growth became the inspiration for Jackieās second album, Crescendo, which was hailed as āstunning,ā āflawless,ā and arguably āthe best hip-hop album of the year.ā Although she began experimenting with rap simply for creative expression, Jackie soon saw it as another platform to share the gospel. When asked about the albumās title, the talented artist says, āIn music theory, ācrescendoā means the increase in sound. So I wanted to apply that to faith. When youāre in Christ, as your faith increases, your fruit should get louder. You love more, youāre more generous, more attentive to the needs of people. You listen well. Things begin to change as your faith becomes more evident.ā
She wrote the album to mimic that spiritual progression. The first track begins on a low note with āLamentations,ā a rap about the reality of sin and the tendency for Jackie to forget sheās been forgiven. Taking listeners through an honest exploration of spiritual growth, Crescendo ends on a high note, celebrating how the Lord saved Jackie through His gospel, initiated her Christian walk, and sustains her to this day.
The Power of Legacy
A gifted communicator and lyricist, Jackie isnāt just impacting culture with wordcraft. Sheās also building a spiritual legacy for her children. Because of her childhood trauma, the idea of raising daughters was terrifying. But sheās found so much joy in becoming a mom. Jackie says, āWhen I think of parenthood, I know Iām only called to steward these children and disciple them and hope they will love the Lord with all their hearts, souls, minds, and strength. When I was carrying Eden, Titus 2 really spoke to me about the older women teaching the younger women.
"Once I realized what a privilege it would be to raise up a woman in my home, I welcomed the challenge.ā As Jackie reflects on the last decade, she gives God all the glory and praise. Without Christ, she wouldnāt have her precious daughters, would have missed out on beautiful friendships, and would never have experienced being loved by a man for the first time in her life. āIf God hadnāt rescued me, none of this would be possible,ā Jackie says. āLife still has its challenges, for sure. But itās better. Itās so much better.ā
This article courtesy of HomeLife magazine.
He Saw God Through His Pen: George Herbert
If you go to the mainstream poetry website Poetry Foundation and click on George Herbertās name, what you read is this: āHe is . . . enormously popular, deeply and broadly inļ¬uential, and arguably the most skillful and important British devotional lyricist of this or any other time.ā This is an extraordinary tribute to a man who never published a single poem in English during his lifetime and died as an obscure country pastor when he was 39. But there are reasons for his enduring inļ¬uence. His Short Life George Herbert was born April 3, 1593, in Montgomeryshire, Wales. He was the seventh of ten children born to Richard and Magdalene Herbert, but his father died when he was three, leaving ten children, the oldest of which was 13. This didnāt put them in ļ¬nancial hardship, however, because Richardās estate, which he left to Magdalene, was sizable. Herbert was an outstanding student at a Westminster preparatory school, writing Latin essays when he was eleven years old, which would later be published. At Cambridge, he distinguished himself in the study of classics. He graduated second in a class of 193 in 1612 with a bachelor of arts, and then in 1616, he took his master of arts and became a major fellow of the university. āHerbertās aim was to feel the love of God and to engrave it in the steel of human language for others to see and feel.ā In 1619, he was elected public orator of Cambridge University. This was a prestigious post with huge public responsibility. A few years later, however, the conļ¬ict of his soul over a call to the pastoral ministry intensiļ¬ed. And a vow he had made to his mother during his ļ¬rst year at Cambridge took hold in his heart. He submitted himself totally to God and to the ministry of a parish priest. He was ordained as a deacon in the Church of England in 1626 and then became the ordained priest of the little country church at Bemerton in 1630. There were never more than a hundred people in his church. At the age of 36 and in failing health, Herbert married Jane Danvers the year before coming to Bemerton, March 5, 1629. He and Jane never had children, though they adopted three nieces who had lost their parents. Then, on March 1, 1633, after fewer than three years in the ministry, and just a month before his fortieth birthday, Herbert died of tuberculosis, which he had suļ¬ered from most of his adult life. His body lies under the chancel of the church, and there is only a simple plaque on the wall with the initials GH. His Dying Gift Thatās the bare outline of Herbertās life. And if that were all there was, nobody today would have ever heard of George Herbert. The reason anyone knows of him today is because of something climactic that happened a few weeks before he died. His close friend Nicholas Ferrar sent a fellow pastor, Edmund Duncon, to see how Herbert was doing. On Dunconās second visit, Herbert knew that the end was near. So he reached for his most cherished earthly possession and said to Duncon, Sir, I pray deliver this little book to my dear brother Ferrar, and tell him he shall ļ¬nd in it a picture of the many spiritual conļ¬icts that have passed betwixt God and my soul, before I could subject mine to the will of Jesus my Master, in whose service I have now found perfect freedom; desire him to read it: and then, if he can think it may turn to the advantage of any dejected poor soul, let it be made public; if not, let him burn it; for I and it are less than the least of Godās mercies. (The Life of Mr. George Herbert, 310ā11) That little book was a collection of 167 poems. Herbertās friend Nicholas Ferrar published it later that year, 1633, under the title The Temple. It went through four editions in three years, was steadily reprinted for a hundred years, and is still in print today. Though not one of these poems was published during his lifetime, The Temple established Herbert as one of the greatest religious poets of all time, and one of the most gifted craftsmen the world of poetry has ever known. āThe eļ¬ort to say more about the glory than you have ever said is a way of seeing more than you have ever seen.ā Poetry was for Herbert a way of seeing and savoring and showing the wonders of Christ. The central theme of his poems was the redeeming love of Christ, and he labored with all his literary might to see it clearly, feel it deeply, and show it strikingly. What we are going to see, however, is not only that the beauty of the subject inspired the beauty of the poetry, but more surprisingly, the eļ¬ort to ļ¬nd beautiful poetic form helped Herbert see more of the beauty of his subject. The craft of poetry opened more of Christ for Herbert ā and for us. Secretary of Godās Praise On the one hand, Herbert was moved to write with consummate skill because his only subject was consummately glorious. āThe subject of every single poem in The Temple,ā Helen Wilcox says, āis, in one way or another, Godā (English Poems of George Herbert, xxi). He writes in his poem āThe Temper (I),ā How should I praise thee, Lord! how should my rymes Gladly engrave thy love in steel, If what my soul doth feel sometimes, My soul might ever feel! Herbert's aim was to feel the love of God and to engrave it in the steel of human language for others to see and feel. Poetry was entirely for God, because everything is entirely for God. More than that, Herbert believed that since God ruled all things by his sacred providence, everything revealed God. Everything spoke of God. The role of the poet is to be Godās echo. Or Godās secretary. To me, Herbertās is one of the best descriptions of the Christian poet: āSecretarie of thy praise.ā O Sacred Providence, who from end to end Strongly and sweetly movest! shall I write, And not of thee, through whom my ļ¬ngers bend To hold my quill? shall they not do thee right? Of all the creatures both in sea and land Only to Man thou hast made known thy wayes, And put the penne alone into his hand, And made him Secretarie of thy praise. God bends Herbertās ļ¬ngers around his quill. āShall they not do thee right?ā Shall I not be a faithful secretary of thy praise ā faithfully rendering ā beautifully rendering ā the riches of your truth and beauty? Saying Leads to Seeing But Herbert discovered, in his role as the secretary of Godās praise, that the poetic eļ¬ort to speak the riches of Godās greatness also gave him deeper sight into that greatness. Writing poetry was not merely the expression of his experience with God that he had before the writing. The writing was part of the experience of God. Probably the poem that says this most forcefully is called āThe Quidditieā ā that is, the essence of things. And his point is that poetic verses are nothing in themselves, but are everything if he is with God in them. My God, a verse is not a crown, No point of honour, or gay suit, No hawk, or banquet, or renown, Nor a good sword, nor yet a lute: It cannot vault, or dance, or play; It never was in France or Spain; Nor can it entertain the day With a great stable or demain: It is no office, art, or news; Nor the Exchange, or busie Hall; But it is that which while I use I am with Thee, and Most take all. āThe craft of poetry opened more of Christ for Herbert ā and for us.ā His poems are āthat which while I use I am with Thee.ā As Helen Wilcox says, āThis phrase makes clear that it is not the ļ¬nished āverseā itself which brings the speaker close to God, but the act of āusingā poetry ā a process which presumably includes writing, revising, and readingā (English Poems of George Herbert, 255). For Herbert, this experience of seeing and savoring God was directly connected with the care and rigor and subtlety and delicacy of his poetic eļ¬ort ā his craft, his art. For Poor, Dejected Souls Yet Herbert had in view more than the joys of his own soul as he wrote. He wrote (and dreamed of publishing after death) with a view of serving the church. As he said to his friend Nicholas Ferrar, ā[If you] can think it may turn to the advantage of any dejected poor soul, let it be made public.ā And this is, in fact, what has happened. People have met God in Herbertās poems, and their lives have been changed. Joseph Summers said of Herbertās poems, āWe can only recognize . . . the immediate imperative of the greatest art: āYou must change your lifeāā (George Herbert, 190). Simone Weil, the twentieth-century French philosopher, was totally agnostic toward God and Christianity but encountered Herbertās poem āLove (III)ā and became a kind of Christian mystic, calling this poem āthe most beautiful poem in the worldā (English Poems of George Herbert, xxi). Love (III) Love bade me welcome: yet my soul drew back, Guiltie of dust and sinne. But quick-eyād Love, observing me grow slack From my ļ¬rst entrance in, Drew nearer to me, sweetly questioning If I lackād any thing. A guest, I answerād, worthy to be here: Love said, you shall be he. I the unkinde, ungratefull? Ah my deare, I cannot look on thee. Love took my hand, and smiling did reply, Who made the eyes but I? Truth Lord, but I have marrād them: let my shame Go where it doth deserve. And know you not, sayes Love, who bore the blame? My deare, then I will serve. You must sit down, sayes Love, and taste my meat: So I did sit and eat. Herbert had struggled all his life to know that Loveās yoke is easy and its burden is light. He had come to ļ¬nd that this is true. And he ended his poems and his life with an echo of the most astonishing expression of it in all the Bible: The King of kings will ādress himself for service and have them recline at table, and he will come and serve themā (Luke 12:37). You must sit down, sayes Love, and taste my meat: So I did sit and eat. This is the end of the matter. No more striving. No more struggle. No more āspiritual conļ¬icts [passing] betwixt God and my soul.ā Instead, Love himself serves the poetās soul as he sits and receives. Words as a Way of Seeing Worth George Herbert found, as most poets have, that the eļ¬ort to put the glimpse of glory into striking or moving words makes the glimpse grow. The poetic eļ¬ort to say beautifully was a way of seeing beauty. The eļ¬ort to ļ¬nd worthy words for Christ opens to us more fully the worth of Christ ā and the experience of the worth of Christ. As Herbert says of his own poetic eļ¬ort, āIt is that which, while I use, I am with thee.ā āThe poetic eļ¬ort to speak the riches of Godās greatness gave Herbert deeper sight into that greatness.ā I will close with an exhortation for everyone who is called to speak about great things. It would be fruitful for your own soul, and for the people you speak to, if you also made a poetic eļ¬ort to see and savor and show the glories of Christ. I donāt mean the eļ¬ort to write poetry. Very few are called to do that. I mean the eļ¬ort to see and savor and show the glories of Christ by giving some prayerful eļ¬ort to ļ¬nding striking, penetrating, and awakening ways of saying the excellencies that we see. Preachers have this job supremely. But all of us, Peter says, are called out of darkness to āproclaim the excellenciesā (1 Peter 2:9). And my point here for all of us is that the eļ¬ort to put the excellencies into worthy words is a way of seeing the worth of the excellencies. The eļ¬ort to say more about the glory than you have ever said is a way of seeing more than you have ever seen. Therefore, I commend poetic effort to you. And I commend one of its greatest patrons, the poet-pastor George Herbert. Article by John Piper