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John Owen
John Owenâs life was incredibly difficult.
Born in 1616 and dying in 1683, Owen lived through the deaths of his first wife and all of his children, several of whom died in very early childhood. He supported his last surviving daughter when her marriage broke down. He contributed to a political revolution, watched it fail, saw the monarchy restored and wreak a terrible revenge on republicans, and lived in and around London during the persecution that followed. For twenty years he would have seen the decapitated heads of his friends on display around the city. He died fearing that the dissenting churches had largely abandoned the doctrine of the Trinity and justification by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone; and, with Charles II about to be replaced by his openly Catholic brother James, believing that the English Reformation was almost over.
Owen was one of the most published writers in the seventeenth century.
He published around 8 million words. These writings included books on theology and spirituality, politics and economics, and ranged in length from the largest commentary ever published on the epistle to the Hebrews to a short Latin poem that has never been reprinted. For not all of Owenâs works have been kept in print. The most widely circulating nineteenth-century edition, most of which is published by the Banner of Truth, did not include Owenâs sermon manuscripts that are kept in various English libraries, nor the book for children that Owen published in 1652.
Owen was one of Englandâs earliest childrenâs authors.
The catechisms that Owen published (1645) outlined what he expected children in his congregation to know. These catechisms were published before the Westminster Assembly published its better-known examples. But Owenâs catechisms are in many ways simpler. The Primer (1652), which Owen prepared after the death of several of his children during the years of poor harvests and disease at the end of the 1640s, showed what Owen expected of an ideal Christian home. Its routine would be built around Bible reading and prayer, he believed, and his little book included sample prayers that children could learn to pray in mornings, evenings, and at meals. Owen argued that those who led church services should take account of the needs of children. Services that were too long, he believed, did no one any good. Adult believers should not need written prayers, he believed, and these should be banned from public worship. But children were different and needed all the help they could get.
Owen enjoyed many warm friendships.
His social network included many of the most famous writers in seventeenth-century England. Among his friends and rivals were John Milton, Andrew Marvell, John Bunyan, and Lucy Hutchinson. Owen fell out with Milton and became the subject of one of his sonnets. Owen helped Marvell publish one of his most controversial political pamphlets. He encouraged his publisher, Nathanial Ponder, to publish Bunyanâs Pilgrimâs Progress. And he appears to have supported Lucy Hutchinson during her move into London, when she attended and took notes upon his preaching and translated large parts of his Theologoumena Pantodapa (1661)âa translation of which has been published with the title Biblical Theology. Owenâs letters reveal his kindness and care as a pastor, especially to mothers grieving their childrenâs death.
Owen was deeply political.
He preached to Members of Parliament on the day after the execution of Charles I, and pinned his hopes for the reformation of church and society on their efforts to transform England into a protestant republic. During the 1650s, under the leadership of Oliver Cromwell, Owen served on important committees that sought to establish a religious foundation for the new regime. But he grew dismayed by the ways in which the Cromwell family, and the administration they led, seemed to turn away from godly values. In 1658, he worked with leading army officers to create a crisis that, he likely hoped, would call the regime back to its earlier ideals. It failed, and instead created the crisis that was resolved by the restoration of the monarchy, the return of Charles II, and the persecution of dissenters that followed. During the Restoration, Owen kept his head down, and, as persecution slackened in the later 1660s, published pamphlets that argued that dissenters were the economic lifeblood of the English nation. But he was chastened by his attempts at political intervention and came increasingly to realize that his focus should be on things eternal.
Owen often changed his mind.
As his developing attitudes to political intervention suggest, Owen committed himself to some beliefs and behaviors that he came to regret. In his early years, he changed his churchmanship from Presbyterianism to Congregationalism. He innovated as a Congregationalist, installing as a co-elder and preacher a man who would not be ordained for several years. He argued for the weekly celebration of the Lordâs Supper, though it is not clear that he ever persuaded any of his congregations to practice it. He thought carefully about the end times and came to believe that, in the latter days, a large number of Jewish people would be converted to Christianity and would return to live in the Promised Land. He dismissed a great deal of discussion about the millennium, but became convinced that the binding of Satan had yet to be achieved. Owen changed his mind because he kept on studying the Bible.
Owen was biblical, through and through, and depended just as much on the Holy Spirit.
He certainly believed in a learned ministryâafter all, he had taught theology at Oxford and done his best to promote godliness within the student body. But he also trusted the Holy Spirit to guide ordinary Christians in small group Bible studies that did not need to be policed by a formally trained expert. Aside from his own Bible study, which advanced on the serious scholarship represented by the three thousand titles that were included in the catalog of his library published soon after his death, Owen encouraged church members to meet together to study Scripture in private.
Owen trusted the Bible and the work of the Spirit after writing about both.
Owen was not a philosophically-driven, rationalist theologian. His writing abounds in biblical citations. It is molded and contoured by biblical revelation. But he warned that Christians could approach their study of the Bible with absolutely no spiritual advantage to themselves. Christians who approached the study of the Bible without absolute dependence upon the Spirit who inspired and preserved it would gain no more benefit than Jewish readers did from their Scriptures, he argued. Christians should never choose between entire dependence upon the Bible and the Spirit.
Owen believed that the goal of the Christian life was knowing God.
Before Owen, no one had ever shown clearly how Christians relate to each person of the Trinity. Owen described the goal of the gospel as revealing the love of the Father, who sent the Son as a redeemer of his people, who would be indwelt, provided with gifts, and united together by the Spirit. Owenâs Communion with God is among his most celebrated achievementsâand no wonder. It is the exhalation of his devotion to Father, Son, and Spirit, and the discovery of the limitless love of God.
Owen is much easier to read than many people imagine.
There is a mystique to Owenâa widespread feeling that his books are too difficult and best left to expert theologians. But Owenâs greatest books were written as sermons for an audience of teenagers. Publishers have begun to modernize Owenâs language in new editions of his works. Now more than ever, itâs time to pick up Owen and find his encouragement for the Christian life.
He Dared to Defy the Pope
One of the great rediscoveries of the Reformation â especially of Martin Luther â was that the word of God comes to us in the form of a book, the Bible. Luther grasped this powerful fact: God preserves the experience of salvation and holiness from generation to generation by means of a book of revelation, not a bishop in Rome. The life-giving and life-threatening risk of the Reformation was the rejection of the pope and councils as the infallible, final authority of the church. One of Lutherâs arch-opponents in the Roman Church, Sylvester Prierias, wrote in response to Lutherâs 95 theses, âHe who does not accept the doctrine of the Church of Rome and pontiff of Rome as an infallible rule of faith, from which the Holy Scriptures, too, draw their strength and authority, is a hereticâ (Luther: Man Between God and the Devil, 193). In other words, the church and the pope are the authoritative deposit of salvation and the word of God â and the book, the Bible, is derivative and secondary. âWhat is new in Luther,â biographer Heiko Oberman writes, âis the notion of absolute obedience to the Scriptures against any authorities, be they popes or councilsâ (Luther, 204). This rediscovery of the word of God above all earthly powers shaped Luther and the entire Reformation. But Lutherâs path to that rediscovery was a tortuous one, beginning with a lightning storm at age 21. Fearful Monk In the summer of 1505, the providential Damascus-like experience happened. On the way home from law school on July 2, Luther was caught in a thunderstorm and was hurled to the ground by lightning. He cried out, âHelp me, St. Anne! I will become a monkâ (Luther, 92). He feared for his soul and did not know how to find safety in the gospel. So he took the next best thing: the monastery. Fifteen days later, to his fatherâs dismay, Luther left his legal studies and kept his vow. He knocked at the gate of the Augustinian hermits in Erfurt and asked the prior to accept him into the order. Later he said this choice was a flagrant sin â ânot worth a farthingâ because it was made against his father and out of fear. Then he added, âBut how much good the merciful Lord has allowed to come of it!â (Luther, 125). âThe Bible had come to mean more to Luther than all the fathers and commentators.â Fear and trembling pervaded Lutherâs years in the monastery. At his first mass two years later, for example, he was so overwhelmed at the thought of Godâs majesty that he almost ran away. The prior persuaded him to continue. But this incident would not be an isolated one in Lutherâs life. Luther would later remember of these years, âThough I lived as a monk without reproach, I felt that I was a sinner before God with an extremely disturbed conscience. I could not believe that he was placated by my satisfactionâ (Martin Luther: Selections from His Writings, 12). Luther would not be married for another twenty years â to Katharina von Bora on June 13, 1525 â which means he lived with sexual temptations as a single man until he was 42. But âin the monastery,â he said, âI did not think about women, money, or possessions; instead my heart trembled and fidgeted about whether God would bestow his grace on meâ (Luther, 128). His all-consuming longing was to know the happiness of Godâs favor. âIf I could believe that God was not angry with me,â he said, âI would stand on my head for joyâ (Luther, 315). Good News: Godâs Righteousness In 1509, Lutherâs beloved superior and counselor and friend, Johannes von Staupitz, allowed Luther to begin teaching the Bible. Three years later, on October 19, 1512, at the age of 28, Luther received his doctorâs degree in theology, and von Staupitz turned over to him the chair in biblical theology at the University of Wittenberg, which Luther held the rest of his life. As Luther set to work reading, studying, and teaching Scripture from the original languages, his troubled conscience seethed beneath the surface â especially as he confronted the phrase âthe righteousness of Godâ in Romans 1:16â17. He wrote, âI hated that word ârighteousness of God,â which according to the use and custom of all the teachers, I had been taught to understand philosophically regarding the formal or active righteousness, as they called it, with which God is righteous and punishes the unrighteous sinnerâ (Selections, 11). But suddenly, as he labored over the text of Romans, all Lutherâs hatred for the righteousness of God turned to love. He remembers, At last, by the mercy of God, meditating day and night, I gave heed to the context of the words, namely, âIn it the righteousness of God is revealed, as it is written, âHe who through faith is righteous shall live.ââ There I began to understand [that] the righteousness of God is that by which the righteous lives by a gift of God, namely by faith. And this is the meaning: the righteousness of God is revealed by the gospel, namely, the passive righteousness with which [the] merciful God justifies us by faith, as it is written, âHe who through faith is righteous shall live.â Here I felt that I was altogether born again and had entered paradise itself through open gates. . . . And I extolled my sweetest word with a love as great as the hatred with which I had before hated the word ârighteousness of God.â Thus that place in Paul was for me truly the gate to paradise. (Selections, 12). Standing on the Book For Luther, the importance of study was so interwoven with his discovery of the true gospel that he could never treat study as anything other than utterly crucial and life-giving and history-shaping. Study had been his gateway to the gospel and to the Reformation and to God. We take so much for granted today about the truth and about the word that we can hardly imagine what it cost Luther to break through to the truth, and to sustain access to the word. Study mattered. His life and the life of the church hung on it. And so, Luther studied, and preached, and wrote more than most of us can imagine. âAn indispensable key to understanding the Scriptures is suffering in the path of righteousness.â Luther was not the pastor of the town church in Wittenberg, but he did share the preaching with his pastor friend, Johannes Bugenhagen. The record bears witness to how utterly devoted he was to the preaching of Scripture. For example, in 1522 he preached 117 sermons, the next year 137 sermons. In 1528, he preached almost 200 times, and from 1529 we have 121 sermons. So the average in those four years was one sermon every two and a half days. And all of it arose from rigorous, disciplined study. He told his students that the exegete should treat a difficult passage no differently than Moses did the rock in the desert, which he smote with his rod until water gushed out for his thirsty people (Luther, 224). In other words, strike the text. In relating his breakthrough with Romans 1:16â17, he wrote, âI beat importunately upon Paulâ (Selections, 12). There is a great incentive in this beating on the text: âThe Bible is a remarkable fountain: the more one draws and drinks of it, the more it stimulates thirstâ (What Luther Says: An Anthology, vol. 1, 67). That is what study was to Luther â taking a text the way Jacob took the angel of the Lord, and saying, âIt must yield. I will hear and know the word of God in this text for my soul and for the church!â (see Genesis 32:26). Thatâs how he broke through to the meaning of âthe righteousness of Godâ in justification. And that is how he broke through tradition and philosophy again and again. Luther had one weapon with which he recovered the gospel from being sold in the markets of Wittenberg: Scripture. He drove out the moneychangers â the indulgence sellers â with the whip of the word of God. Slandered and Struck Down Study was not the only factor that opened Godâs word to Luther. Suffering did as well. Trials were woven into life for Luther. Keep in mind that from 1521 on, Luther lived under the ban of the empire. Emperor Charles V said, âI have decided to mobilize everything against Luther: my kingdoms and dominions, my friends, my body, my blood and my soulâ (Luther, 29). He could be legally killed, except where he was protected by his prince, Frederick of Saxony. He endured relentless slander of the cruelest kind. He once observed, âIf the Devil can do nothing against the teachings, he attacks the person, lying, slandering, cursing, and ranting at him. Just as the papistsâ Beelzebub did to me when he could not subdue my Gospel, he wrote that I was possessed by the Devil, was a changeling, my beloved mother a whore and bath attendantâ (Luther, 88). Physically, he suffered from excruciating kidney stones and headaches, with buzzing in his ears and ear infections and incapacitating constipation and hemorrhoids. âI nearly gave up the ghost â and now, bathed in blood, can find no peace. What took four days to heal immediately tears open againâ (Luther, 328). Oratio, Meditatio, Tentatio In Godâs providence, however, these multiplied sufferings did not destroy Luther, but instead turned him into a theologian. Luther noticed in Psalm 119 that the psalmist not only prayed and meditated over the word of God in order to understand it; he also suffered in order to understand it. Psalm 119:67, 71 says, âBefore I was afflicted I went astray, but now I keep your word. . . . It is good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn your statutes.â An indispensable key to understanding the Scriptures is suffering in the path of righteousness. âThe rediscovery of the word of God above all earthly powers shaped Luther and the entire Reformation.â Thus, Luther said, âI want you to know how to study theology in the right way. I have practiced this method myself. . . . Here you will find three rules. They are frequently proposed throughout Psalm [119] and run thus: Oratio, meditatio, tentatio (prayer, meditation, tribulation).â And tribulation he called the âtouchstone.â â[These rules] teach you not only to know and understand, but also to experience how right, how true, how sweet, how lovely, how mighty, how comforting Godâs word is: it is wisdom supremeâ (What Luther Says, vol. 3, 1359â60). He proved the value of trials over and over again in his own experience. âFor as soon as Godâs Word becomes known through you,â he says, âthe devil will afflict you, will make a real [theological] doctor of you, and will teach you by his temptations to seek and to love Godâs Word. For I myself . . . owe my papists many thanks for so beating, pressing, and frightening me through the devilâs raging that they have turned me into a fairly good theologian, driving me to a goal I should never have reachedâ (What Luther Says, vol. 3, 1360). Above All Earthly Powers Luther said with resounding forcefulness in 1545, the year before he died, âLet the man who would hear God speak, read Holy Scriptureâ (What Luther Says, vol. 2, 62). He lived what he urged. He wrote in 1533, âFor a number of years I have now annually read through the Bible twice. If the Bible were a large, mighty tree and all its words were little branches, I have tapped at all the branches, eager to know what was there and what it had to offerâ (What Luther Says, vol. 1, 83). Oberman says Luther kept to that practice for at least ten years (Luther, 173). The Bible had come to mean more to Luther than all the fathers and commentators. Here Luther stood, and here we stand. Not on the pronouncements of popes, or the decisions of councils, or the winds of popular opinion, but on âthat word above all earthly powersâ â the living and abiding word of God. Article by John Piper