About the Book
"God is a Matchmaker" by Derek and Ruth Prince explores the biblical principles of marriage and relationships, emphasizing the importance of seeking God's guidance in finding a partner. The authors share their personal experiences and provide practical advice for those seeking a godly relationship. Ultimately, the book encourages readers to trust in God's plan for their love life and to seek His will in their search for a life partner.
Rosaria Butterfield
Rosaria Champagne Butterfield, a former tenured professor of English and womenâs studies at Syracuse University, converted to Christ in 1999 in what she describes as a train wreck. Her memoir The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert chronicles that difficult journey. Rosaria is married to Kent, a Reformed Presbyterian pastor in North Carolina, and is a homeschool mother, author, and speaker.
Raised and educated in liberal Catholic settings, Rosaria fell in love with the world of words. In her late twenties, allured by feminist philosophy and LGBT advocacy, she adopted a lesbian identity. Rosaria earned her PhD from Ohio State University, then served in the English department and women's studies program at Syracuse University from 1992 to 2002. Her primary academic field was critical theory, specializing in queer theory. Her historical focus was 19th-century literature, informed by Freud, Marx, and Darwin. She advised the LGBT student group, wrote Syracuse Universityâs policy for same-sex couples, and actively lobbied for LGBT aims alongside her lesbian partner.
In 1997, while Rosaria was researching the Religious Right âand their politics of hatred against people like me,â she wrote an article against the Promise Keepers. A response to that article triggered a meeting with Ken Smith, who became a resource on the Religious Right and their Bible, a confidant, and a friend. In 1999, after repeatedly reading the Bible in large chunks for her research, Rosaria converted to Christianity. Her first book, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert, details her conversion and the cataclysmic falloutâin which she lost âeverything but the dog,â yet gained eternal life in Christ.
Rosariaâs second book, Openness Unhindered: Further Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert on Sexual Identity and Union with Christ, addresses questions of sin, identity, and repentance that she often encounters during speaking engagements. She discourages usage of the term âgay Christian,â and she disputes âconversion therapy,â in part because heterosexual sin is no more sanctified than homosexual sin. Her heartâs desire is for people to put the hands of the hurting into the hands of the Savior, who equips us to walk and grow in humility.
In her third book, The Gospel Comes with a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post-Christian World, Rosaria explores how God used a humble coupleâs simple invitation to dinner to draw herâa radical, committed unbelieverâto himself. With this story of her conversion as a backdrop, she invites us into her home to show us how God can use this same âradical, ordinary hospitalityâ to bring the gospel to our lost friends and neighbors. Such hospitality sees our homes as not our own, but as Godâs tools for the furtherance of his kingdom as we welcome those who look, think, believe, and act differently from us into our everyday, sometimes messy livesâhelping them see what true Christian faith really looks like.
Rosaria is zealous for hospitality, loves her family, cherishes dogs, and enjoys coffee.
The Story of John Bunyan's âPilgrim's Progressâ
On the morning of November 12, 1660, a young pastor entered a small meeting house in Lower Samsell, England, preparing to be arrested. He hadnât noticed the men keeping guard outside the house, but he didnât need to. A friend had warned him that they were coming. He came anyway. He had agreed to preach. The constable broke in upon the meeting and began searching the faces until he found the one he came for: a tall man, wearing a reddish mustache and plain clothes, paused in the act of prayer. John Bunyan by name. âHad I been minded to play the coward, I could have escaped,â Bunyan later remembered. But he had no mind for that now. He spoke what closing exhortation he could as the constable forced him from the house, a man with no weapon but his Bible. Two months and several court proceedings later, Bunyan was taken from his church, his family, and his job to serve âone of the longest jail terms . . . by a dissenter in Englandâ (On Reading Well, 182). For twelve years, he would sleep on a straw mat in a cold cell. For twelve years, he would wake up away from his wife and four young children. For twelve years, he would wait for release or, if not, exile or execution. And in those twelve years, he began a book about a pilgrim named Christian â a book that would become, for over two centuries, the best-selling book written in the English language. Tinker Turned Preacher John Bunyan (1628â1688) was not the most likely Englishman to write The Pilgrimâs Progress, a book that would be translated into two hundred languages, that would capture the imaginations of children and scholars alike, and that would rank, in influence and popularity, just behind the King James Bible in the English-speaking world. âBunyan is the first major English writer who was neither London-based nor university-educated,â writes Christopher Hill. Rather, âthe army had been his school, and prison his universityâ (The Life, Books, and Influence of John Bunyan, 168). ââPilgrimâs Progressâ bears the marks of John Bunyanâs confinement. Without the prison, we may not have the pilgrim.â As Paul said of the Corinthians, so we might say of Bunyan: he had few advantages âaccording to worldly standardsâ (1 Corinthians 1:26). In his spiritual autobiography, Grace Abounding to the Chief of Sinners, he confesses that his fatherâs house was âof that rank that is meanest and most despised of all the families in the landâ (7). Thomas Bunyan was a tinker, a traveling mender of pots, pans, and other metal utensils. Thomas sent his son to school only briefly, where John learned to read and write. Later, after a stint in the army, he followed his father into the tinker trade. Meanwhile, Bunyan recalls, âI had but few equals, especially considering my years, which were tender, being few, both for cursing, swearing, lying, and blaspheming the name of Godâ (Grace Abounding, 8). Sometime in Bunyanâs early twenties, however, God laid his hand on the blasphemous tinker and began to press. For the first time, Bunyan felt the load of sin and guilt on his back, and despair nearly sunk him. He agonized over his soul for years before he was finally able to say, âGreat sins do draw out great grace; and where guilt is most terrible and fierce, there the mercy of God in Christ, when showed to the soul, appears most high and mightyâ (Grace Abounding, 97). Bunyan soon carried this travail and triumph of grace into the pulpit of a Bedford church, where he heralded Christ so powerfully that congregations throughout Bedfordshire County began asking for the tinker turned preacher â including a small gathering of believers in Lower Samsell. Trying Days for Dissenters Not everyone in England responded warmly to Bunyanâs preaching, however. âHe lived in more trying days than those in which our lot is fallen,â wrote John Newton a century later (âPreface to The Pilgrimâs Progress,â xxxix). Yes, these were trying days â at least for dissenting pastors like Bunyan, who refused to join the Church of England. Throughout the seventeenth century, dissenters were sometimes honored, sometimes ignored, and sometimes arrested by Englandâs authorities. Bunyanâs lot fell into the last of these. Some dissenters did not exactly help the cause. A Puritan sect called the Fifth Monarchy Men, for example, took to arms in 1657 and 1661 in order to claim Englandâs crown for the (supposedly) soon-to-return Christ. Often, then, âthe authorities did not seek to suppress Dissenters as heretics but as disturbers of law and order,â David Calhoun explains (Life, Books, and Influence, 28). Bunyan was no radical â simply a tinker who preached without an official license. Still, the Bedfordshire authorities thought it safer to silence him. Once arrested, Bunyan was given an ultimatum: If he would agree to cease preaching and remain quiet in his calling as a tinker, he could return to his family at once. If he refused, imprisonment and potential exile awaited him. At one point in the proceedings (which lasted several weeks), Bunyan responded, If any man can lay anything to my charge, either in doctrine or practice, in this particular, that can be proved error or heresy, I am willing to disown it, even in the very market place; but if it be truth, then to stand to it to the last drop of my blood. (Grace Abounding, 153) Bunyan was then 32 years old. He would not be a free man again until age 44. Bedford Jail Despite Bunyanâs boldness before the magistrates, his decision was not an easy one. Most trying of all was his separation from Elizabeth, his wife, and their four young children, one of whom was blind. Years into his jail time, he would write, âThe parting with my wife and poor children has oft been to me in this place as the pulling the flesh from my bonesâ (Grace Abounding, 122). He would make shoelaces over the next twelve years to help support them. But Bunyan would not ultimately regret his decision. Though parted from the comfort of his family, he was not parted from the comfort of his Master. âJesus Christ . . . was never more real and apparent than now,â the imprisoned Bunyan wrote. âHere I have seen him and felt him indeedâ (Grace Abounding, 119). âThe best designs of the devil can only serve the progress of Godâs pilgrims.â With comfort in his soul, then, Bunyan gave himself to whatever ministry he could. He counseled visitors. He and other inmates preached to each other on Sundays. But most of all, Bunyan wrote. In jail, with his Bible and Foxeâs Book of Martyrs close at hand, he penned Grace Abounding. There also, as he was working on another book, an image of a path and a pilgrim flashed upon his mind. âAnd thus it was,â Bunyan wrote in a poem, I, writing of the way And race of saints, in this our gospel day, Fell suddenly into an allegory, About their journey, and the way to glory. (Pilgrimâs Progress, 3) Thus began the book that would soon be read, not only in Bunyanâs Bedford, but in Sheffield, Birmingham, Manchester, London â and eventually far beyond. The Bedford magistrates sought to silence Bunyan in jail. In jail, Bunyan sounded a trumpet that reached the ears of all the West, and even the world. Calvinism in Delightful Colors The genius of Bunyanâs book, along with its immediate popularity, owes much to the writerâs sudden fall âinto an allegory.â As an allegory, Pilgrimâs Progress operates on two levels. On one level, the book is a storehouse of Puritan theology â âthe Westminster Confession of Faith with people in it,â as someone once said. On another level, however, it is an enthralling adventure story â a journey of life and death from the City of Destruction to the Celestial City. The poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge would later write, âI could not have believed beforehand that Calvinism could be painted in such exquisitely delightful colorsâ (Life, Books, and Influence, 166). Those who read Pilgrimâs Progress find theology coming to them in dungeons and caves, in sword fights and fairs, in honest friends and two-faced flatterers. Bunyan does not merely tell us we must renounce all for Christâs sake; he shows us Christian fleeing his neighbors and family, fingers in his ears, crying, âLife! life! eternal life!â (Pilgrimâs Progress, 14). Bunyan does not simply instruct us about our spiritual conflict; he makes us stand in the Valley of Humiliation with a âfoul fiend . . . hideous to beholdâ striding toward us (66). Bunyan does not just warn us of the subtlety of temptation; he gives us sore feet on a rocky path, and then reveals a smooth road âon the other side of the fenceâ (129) â more comfortable on the feet, but the straightest way to a giant named Despair. The cast of characters in Pilgrimâs Progress reminds us that the path to the Celestial City is narrow â so narrow that only a few find it, while scores fall by the wayside. Here we meet Timorous, who flees backward at the sight of lions; Mr. Hold-the-world, who falls into Demasâs cave; Talkative, whose religion lives only in his tongue; Ignorance, who seeks entrance to the city by his own merits; and a host of others who, for one reason or another, do not endure to the end. âIn jail, John Bunyan sounded a trumpet that reached the ears of all the West, and even the world.â And herein lies the drama of the story. Bunyan, a staunch believer in the doctrine of the saintsâ perseverance, nevertheless refused to take that perseverance for granted. As long as we are on the path, we are ânot yet out of the gun-shot of the devilâ (101). Between here and our home, many enemies lie along the way. Nevertheless, let every pilgrim take courage: âyou have all power in heaven and earth on your sideâ (101). If grace has brought us to the path, grace will guard our every step. âAll We Do Is Succeedâ Within ten years of its publishing date in 1678, Pilgrimâs Progress had gone through eleven editions and made the Bedford tinker a national phenomenon. According to Calhoun, âSome three thousand people came to hear him one Sunday in London, and twelve hundred turned up for a weekday sermon during the winterâ (Life, Books, and Influence, 38). If the Bedford magistrates had allowed Bunyan to continue preaching, we would still remember him today as the author of several dozen books and as one of the many Puritan luminaries. But in all likelihood, he would not be read today in some two hundred languages besides his own. For Pilgrimâs Progress is a work of prison literature â and it bears the marks of Bunyanâs confinement. Without the prison, we would likely not have the pilgrim. The story of Bunyan and his book, then, is yet one more illustration that Godâs ways are high above our own (Isaiah 55:8â9), and that the best designs of the devil can only serve the progress of Godâs pilgrims (Genesis 50:20). John Piper, reflecting on Bunyanâs imprisonment, says, âAll we do is succeed â either painfully or pleasantlyâ (âThe Chief Design of My Lifeâ). Yes, if we have lost our burden at the cross, and now find ourselves on the pilgrimsâ path, all we do is succeed. We succeed whether we feast with the saints in Palace Beautiful or wrestle Apollyon in the Valley of Humiliation. We succeed whether we fellowship with shepherds in the Delectable Mountains or lie bleeding in Vanity Fair. We succeed even when we walk straight into the last river, our feet reaching for the bottom as the water rises above our heads. For at the end of this path is a prince who âis such a lover of poor pilgrims, that the like is not to be found from the east to the westâ (Pilgrimâs Progress, 61). Among the company of that prince is one John Bunyan, a pilgrim who has now joined the cloud of witnesses (Hebrews 12:1). âThough he died, he still speaksâ (Hebrews 11:4) â and urges the rest of us onward. Article by Scott Hubbard