About the Book
"When Am I Ready" by Kingsley Okonkwo is a practical guide that helps readers understand the signs and indicators that show readiness for marriage. The book explores important aspects such as emotional maturity, financial stability, and spiritual preparedness for a lifelong commitment. It offers valuable insights and advice on how to discern when one is ready for marriage and how to navigate the journey of finding a life partner.
Robert Murray McCheyne
Robert Murray MâCheyne (1813-43) was widely regarded as one of the most saintly and able young ministers of his day. Entering Edinburgh University in 1827, he gained prizes in all the classes he attended. In 1831 he commenced his divinity studies under Thomas Chalmers at the Edinburgh Divinity Hall. MâCheyneâs early interests were modern languages, poetry, and gymnastics. The death of his older brother David in July 1831 made a deep impression on him spiritually. His reading soon after of Dicksonâs Sum of Saving Knowledge brought him into a new relationship of peace and acceptance with God.
In July 1835 MâCheyne was licensed by the Presbytery of Annan, and in November became assistant to John Bonar at Larbert and Dunipace. In November 1836 he was ordained to the new charge of St Peterâs, Dundee, a largely industrial parish which did not help his delicate health.
MâCheyneâs gifts as a preacher and as a godly man brought him increasing popularity. The Communion seasons at St Peterâs were especially noted for the sense of Godâs presence and power.
MâCheyne took an active interest in the wider concerns of the Church. In 1837 he became Secretary to the Association for Church Extension in the county of Forfar. This work was dear to MâCheyneâs heart. First and foremost he saw himself as an evangelist. He was grieved by the spiritual deadness in many of the parishes in Scotland and considered giving up his charge if the Church would set him apart as an evangelist. Writing to a friend in Ireland he revealed where his loyalties lay in the controversy that was then overtaking the Church: âYou donât know what Moderatism is. It is a plant that our Heavenly Father never planted, and I trust it is now to be rooted out.â
Towards the close of 1838 MâCheyne was advised to take a lengthy break from his parish work in Dundee because of ill-health. During this time it was suggested to him by Robert S. Candlish that he consider going to Israel to make a personal enquiry on behalf of the Churchâs Mission to Israel. Along with Alexander Keith and Andrew Bonar, MâCheyne set out for Israel (Palestine). The details of their visit were recorded and subsequently published in the Narrative of a Mission of Enquiry to the Jews from the Church of Scotland, in 1819. This did much to stimulate interest in Jewish Mission, and led to pioneer work among Jews in parts of Europe, most notably Hungary.
MâCheyne returned to St Peterâs to find that the work had flourished in his absence under the ministry of William Chalmers Burns. MâCheyne exercised a remarkably fruitful ministry in Dundee while in constant demand to minister in other places. Just prior to his death (in a typhus epidemic) he had been preparing his congregation for the coming disruption in the Church of Scotland, which he thought inevitable after the Claim of Right had been refused.
[Ian Hamilton in Dictionary of Scottish Church History and Theology. See also Andrew Bonarâs Robert Murray MâCheyne, and the same authorâs influential Memoir and Remains of Robert Murray MâCheyne, both published by the Trust. There is a short biography of MâCheyne in Marcus L. Loaneâs They Were Pilgrims (Banner of Truth, 2006).]
Parable of an Unhealthy Soul
How do works of obedience relate to the free, unmerited gift of Godâs grace in the life of a Christian? This has been a recurring controversial and confusing issue since the earliest days of the church. If we are justified by Godâs grace alone, through faith alone, in Christâs sufficient substitutionary work alone, and not by any work of ours (Romans 3:8), then why are we warned and instructed to âstrive . . . for the holiness without which no one will see the Lordâ (Hebrews 12:14)? If our works donât save us, then how can our not working (like not striving for holiness) prevent us from being saved? Before we turn to the apostle Peter for help, hear a parable of an unhealthy soul. Diligence Reveals Real Faith There was a man who was forty pounds overweight. Despite knowing it was dangerous to his health, for years he had indulged in too much of the wrong kinds of foods and neglected the right kinds of exercise. One day, his doctor told him he was in the early stages of developing type-2 diabetes. Not only that, but his vital signs also pointed to high risks of heart attack, stroke, and various cancers. If he didnât make specific changes, his doctor warned, the man would surely die prematurely. So, the man heeded his doctorâs warnings. He made every effort to put new systems into place that encouraged healthy habits of eating and activity and discouraged his harmful old habits, preferences, and cravings. After twelve months, the manâs health was beginning to be transformed. He had lost most of his excess weight, felt better, had more energy, and no longer lived under the chronic, depressing cloud of knowing he was living in harmful self-indulgence. When his doctor next saw him, he was very pleased and said to the man, âWell done! You are no longer at heightened risk of premature death.â The man continued in his new ways and lived well into old age. Question: Was the manâs health restored through his faith in the gracious knowledge provided to him pertaining to life and healthiness, or was it restored through his diligent efforts to put this knowledge into practice? How Faith Works Do you see the problem with the question? It poses a false dichotomy. The manâs faith and his works were organically inseparable. If he didnât have faith in what the doctor told him, he wouldnât have heeded the doctorâs warning â there would have been no health-restoring works. If he didnât obey the doctorâs instructions, whatever âfaithâ he may have claimed to have in his doctor would have been âdead faithâ (James 2:26) â that faith would not have saved him from his health-destroying ways. This parable, imperfect as it is, is a picture of the biblical teaching on sanctification. In a nutshell, the New Testament teaches that the faith that justifies us is the same faith that sanctifies us. This faith is âthe gift of God, not a result of worksâ (Ephesians 2:8â9). Itâs just that this saving faith, by its nature, perseveres, and works to make us holy. We passively receive this gift of faith freely given to us by God. But faith, once received, does not leave a soul passive. It becomes the driving force behind our actions, the way we live. By its nature, faith believes the âprecious and very great promisesâ of God (2 Peter 1:4), and the evidence that real faith is present in us manifests, over time, through the ways we act on those promises. The New Testament calls these actions âworks of faithâ (1 Thessalonians 1:3) or the âobedience of faithâ (Romans 1:5). True works of faith donât ânullify the grace of Godâ (Galatians 2:21); they are evidence that we have truly received the grace of God, and are themselves further expressions of grace. Now, let me show you one place where Scripture clearly teaches this. And as I do, imagine yourself as the unhealthy soul in my parable sitting in your doctorâs office â and your doctor is the apostle Peter. Dr. Peter has just examined your spiritual health and has some serious concerns. So, as a good physician, he gives you a firm exhortation. Escaping Through Promises [Godâs] divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire. (2 Peter 1:3â4) Dr. Peter begins by telling you that God has granted to you all things. He agrees with his colleague, Dr. Paul, that God has granted you life, breath, and everything, including the day you were born, the places youâll live, and how long (Acts 17:25â26). God has granted you regeneration (Ephesians 2:4â5), the measure of your faith (Romans 12:3), spiritual gifts (1 Corinthians 12:7â11), and capacity to work hard (1 Corinthians 15:10). And God has given you his âprecious and very great promises so that through themâ you may escape the power of sin and be transformed into his nature. Everything, from beginning to end, is Godâs grace, since âa person cannot receive even one thing unless it is given him from heavenâ (John 3:27). Make Every Effort For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. (2 Peter 1:5â7) Notice Dr. Peterâs words: For this reason (because God has granted you everything), make every effort (act with faith in all God has promised you). In other words, prove the reality of your profession of faith, by doing whatever it takes to actively cultivate habits of grace, that nurture the character qualities necessary to live out the âobedience of faithâ through doing tangible acts of good to bless others. What Negligence Reveals For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For whoever lacks these qualities is so nearsighted that he is blind, having forgotten that he was cleansed from his former sins. (2 Peter 1:8â9) âDiligence will reveal genuine faith because that is how faith works.â Dr. Peterâs prescription is clear and simple: if you cultivate these holy qualities, they will foster spiritual health and fruitfulness; if you donât, you will experience spiritual decline and demise. Diligence will reveal genuine faith because that is how faith works: it leads to action. Negligence will reveal your lack of faith because âdead faithâ doesnât work. Now, this is a warning, not a condemnation. Peter knows well that all disciples have seasons of setbacks and failure. But he also knows, with Paul, that some disciples âprofess to know God, but they deny him by their worksâ (Titus 1:16) â their profession of faith is not supported by the âobedience of faith.â Peter doesnât want you to be one of those statistics, so he ends his firm exhortation to you on a hopeful note. Pursue Diligence by Faith Therefore, brothers, be all the more diligent to confirm your calling and election, for if you practice these qualities you will never fall. For in this way there will be richly provided for you an entrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. (2 Peter 1:10â11) Just so youâre clear, Dr. Peter emphasizes the organic, inseparable relationship between Godâs grace and your âworks of faith.â He says, âBe diligent to confirm your calling and election.â You donât call yourself to Christ; Christ calls you by his grace (John 15:16). You donât elect yourself to salvation; God elects you by his grace (Ephesians 1:4â6). But you do have an essential contribution to make to your eternal spiritual health. You confirm the reality of Godâs saving grace in your life through diligently obeying by faith all that Jesus commands you (Matthew 28:20) â or not. âYou can confirm the reality of Godâs saving grace in your life â or not.â This is Dr. Peterâs prescription for your assurance of salvation: your diligent obedience through faith, your making every effort to pursue holiness, is evidence that your faith is real and that the Holy Spirit is at work in you to make you a partaker in the divine nature. This is why Scripture commands us, âStrive for . . . the holiness without which no one will see the Lordâ (Hebrews 12:14). Itâs not that our striving, our âmaking every effortâ to obey God, somehow merits us salvation. Rather, our striving is Godâs gracious, ordained means â fed by his promises and supplied by his Spirit â to make us holy as he is holy (1 Peter 1:16) and to provide us âentrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.â Godâs grace is no less gracious because he chooses to grant it not only apart from our works (in justification) but also through our diligent âworks of faithâ (in sanctification) â especially since these works are evidence that our faith is real. Article by Jon Bloom