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Adoniram Judson
Born in Malden, Massachusetts, the son of Adoniram Judson, Sr., a Congregational clergyman, and Abigail (Brown), Judson graduated from Brown University (B.A., M.A.) and in the first class of Andover Theological Seminary (1810). His interest in missions began in 1809 when he read Claudius Buchananās sermon āThe Star in the East.ā With ministerial friends he started the Society of Inquiry, a seminary study group on missions. In 1810 he was licensed to preach by the Orange, Vermont, Congregational Association preparatory to the pastoral ministry; however, he had strong inclinations toward overseas missions. In June of that year, Judson, Samuel Newell, Samuel Nott, Jr., and Gordon Hall presented themselves to the Massachusetts General Association for missionary service, and the American Board of Commissioners for Foreign Missions (ABCFM) was formed as a result. Following an unsuccessful attempt to secure an appointment from the London Missionary Society in England, Judson persuaded the ABCFM to support three couples and two single men on a mission to the East. Judson was the lead candidate of the first commissioning service for the American overseas missionaries held at Salem (Massachusetts) Tabernacle on February 6, 1812.
Following a sendoff with great fanfare, Judson and his bride, Ann (Haseltine), sailed with the Newells for India in 1812. During the four-month voyage, the couple carefully studied the baptismal positions of the English Baptists in order to controvert the Baptist position; however, when they arrived at Calcutta, they adopted Baptist principles and were baptized by William Carey. Upon their change of sentiments, the Judsons resigned from the ABCFM and plans were laid for the creation of a Baptist mission society in the United States.
By order of the British East India Company, the Judsons were forced to leave India. Surreptitiously escaping to Rangoon, Burma (Myanmar), in 1813, they established a station that became the first mission of American Baptists. Their work included evangelism and Bible translation. In 1842, following completion of Judsonsās first dictionary, the couple relocated to Ava, to establish greater influence with the government. However, Adoniram Judson was charged with being an English spy and was imprisoned in June 1824. In a 21-month period of incarceration during the Anglo-Burmese War, he suffered from fever and malnutrition and underwent a forced march. As a result of the courage and resourcefulness of his wife, he was released in February 1826 to serve as a translator for the Burmese government during negotiations for the Treaty of Yandabo. Ann Judson died of complications of smallpox later the same year.
To enlarge his efforts, Judson moved his mission to Moulmein in 1828. There, with the assistance of Jonathan Wade, he built a church and school and continued work on the Burmese Bible, which he completed in 1834. Later that year, he married Sarah Hall Boardman, widow of George Dana Boardman and a gifted linguist and teacher. In 1845, following the birth of their eight child, Sarahās health declined and the Judsons embarked for the United States. Sarah died en route; Judson completed the trip and remained in the United States for nine monthsā furlough. While his strength had been greatly reduced and he suffered chronic laryngitis, he was hailed as a hero throughout the Christian community.
While at Madison University in upstate New York, he met and married Emily Chubbock, a writer and educator. They returned to Burma in 1846 for continued work on an enlarged Burmese dictionary, which was finished in 1849. Shortly afterward, Judson contracted a respiratory fever and, attempting to travel to a better climate, died at sea.
Brackney, William H., āJudson, Adoniram,ā in Biographical Dictionary of Christian Missions, ed. Gerald H. Anderson (New York: Macmillan Reference USA, 1998), 345-46.
This article is reprinted from Biographical Dictionary of Christian Missions, Macmillan Reference USA, copyright Ā© 1998 Gerald H. Anderson, by permission of Macmillan Reference USA, New York, NY. All rights reserved.
He Saw God Through His Pen: George Herbert
If you go to the mainstream poetry website Poetry Foundation and click on George Herbertās name, what you read is this: āHe is . . . enormously popular, deeply and broadly inļ¬uential, and arguably the most skillful and important British devotional lyricist of this or any other time.ā This is an extraordinary tribute to a man who never published a single poem in English during his lifetime and died as an obscure country pastor when he was 39. But there are reasons for his enduring inļ¬uence. His Short Life George Herbert was born April 3, 1593, in Montgomeryshire, Wales. He was the seventh of ten children born to Richard and Magdalene Herbert, but his father died when he was three, leaving ten children, the oldest of which was 13. This didnāt put them in ļ¬nancial hardship, however, because Richardās estate, which he left to Magdalene, was sizable. Herbert was an outstanding student at a Westminster preparatory school, writing Latin essays when he was eleven years old, which would later be published. At Cambridge, he distinguished himself in the study of classics. He graduated second in a class of 193 in 1612 with a bachelor of arts, and then in 1616, he took his master of arts and became a major fellow of the university. āHerbertās aim was to feel the love of God and to engrave it in the steel of human language for others to see and feel.ā In 1619, he was elected public orator of Cambridge University. This was a prestigious post with huge public responsibility. A few years later, however, the conļ¬ict of his soul over a call to the pastoral ministry intensiļ¬ed. And a vow he had made to his mother during his ļ¬rst year at Cambridge took hold in his heart. He submitted himself totally to God and to the ministry of a parish priest. He was ordained as a deacon in the Church of England in 1626 and then became the ordained priest of the little country church at Bemerton in 1630. There were never more than a hundred people in his church. At the age of 36 and in failing health, Herbert married Jane Danvers the year before coming to Bemerton, March 5, 1629. He and Jane never had children, though they adopted three nieces who had lost their parents. Then, on March 1, 1633, after fewer than three years in the ministry, and just a month before his fortieth birthday, Herbert died of tuberculosis, which he had suļ¬ered from most of his adult life. His body lies under the chancel of the church, and there is only a simple plaque on the wall with the initials GH. His Dying Gift Thatās the bare outline of Herbertās life. And if that were all there was, nobody today would have ever heard of George Herbert. The reason anyone knows of him today is because of something climactic that happened a few weeks before he died. His close friend Nicholas Ferrar sent a fellow pastor, Edmund Duncon, to see how Herbert was doing. On Dunconās second visit, Herbert knew that the end was near. So he reached for his most cherished earthly possession and said to Duncon, Sir, I pray deliver this little book to my dear brother Ferrar, and tell him he shall ļ¬nd in it a picture of the many spiritual conļ¬icts that have passed betwixt God and my soul, before I could subject mine to the will of Jesus my Master, in whose service I have now found perfect freedom; desire him to read it: and then, if he can think it may turn to the advantage of any dejected poor soul, let it be made public; if not, let him burn it; for I and it are less than the least of Godās mercies. (The Life of Mr. George Herbert, 310ā11) That little book was a collection of 167 poems. Herbertās friend Nicholas Ferrar published it later that year, 1633, under the title The Temple. It went through four editions in three years, was steadily reprinted for a hundred years, and is still in print today. Though not one of these poems was published during his lifetime, The Temple established Herbert as one of the greatest religious poets of all time, and one of the most gifted craftsmen the world of poetry has ever known. āThe eļ¬ort to say more about the glory than you have ever said is a way of seeing more than you have ever seen.ā Poetry was for Herbert a way of seeing and savoring and showing the wonders of Christ. The central theme of his poems was the redeeming love of Christ, and he labored with all his literary might to see it clearly, feel it deeply, and show it strikingly. What we are going to see, however, is not only that the beauty of the subject inspired the beauty of the poetry, but more surprisingly, the eļ¬ort to ļ¬nd beautiful poetic form helped Herbert see more of the beauty of his subject. The craft of poetry opened more of Christ for Herbert ā and for us. Secretary of Godās Praise On the one hand, Herbert was moved to write with consummate skill because his only subject was consummately glorious. āThe subject of every single poem in The Temple,ā Helen Wilcox says, āis, in one way or another, Godā (English Poems of George Herbert, xxi). He writes in his poem āThe Temper (I),ā How should I praise thee, Lord! how should my rymes Gladly engrave thy love in steel, If what my soul doth feel sometimes, My soul might ever feel! Herbert's aim was to feel the love of God and to engrave it in the steel of human language for others to see and feel. Poetry was entirely for God, because everything is entirely for God. More than that, Herbert believed that since God ruled all things by his sacred providence, everything revealed God. Everything spoke of God. The role of the poet is to be Godās echo. Or Godās secretary. To me, Herbertās is one of the best descriptions of the Christian poet: āSecretarie of thy praise.ā O Sacred Providence, who from end to end Strongly and sweetly movest! shall I write, And not of thee, through whom my ļ¬ngers bend To hold my quill? shall they not do thee right? Of all the creatures both in sea and land Only to Man thou hast made known thy wayes, And put the penne alone into his hand, And made him Secretarie of thy praise. God bends Herbertās ļ¬ngers around his quill. āShall they not do thee right?ā Shall I not be a faithful secretary of thy praise ā faithfully rendering ā beautifully rendering ā the riches of your truth and beauty? Saying Leads to Seeing But Herbert discovered, in his role as the secretary of Godās praise, that the poetic eļ¬ort to speak the riches of Godās greatness also gave him deeper sight into that greatness. Writing poetry was not merely the expression of his experience with God that he had before the writing. The writing was part of the experience of God. Probably the poem that says this most forcefully is called āThe Quidditieā ā that is, the essence of things. And his point is that poetic verses are nothing in themselves, but are everything if he is with God in them. My God, a verse is not a crown, No point of honour, or gay suit, No hawk, or banquet, or renown, Nor a good sword, nor yet a lute: It cannot vault, or dance, or play; It never was in France or Spain; Nor can it entertain the day With a great stable or demain: It is no office, art, or news; Nor the Exchange, or busie Hall; But it is that which while I use I am with Thee, and Most take all. āThe craft of poetry opened more of Christ for Herbert ā and for us.ā His poems are āthat which while I use I am with Thee.ā As Helen Wilcox says, āThis phrase makes clear that it is not the ļ¬nished āverseā itself which brings the speaker close to God, but the act of āusingā poetry ā a process which presumably includes writing, revising, and readingā (English Poems of George Herbert, 255). For Herbert, this experience of seeing and savoring God was directly connected with the care and rigor and subtlety and delicacy of his poetic eļ¬ort ā his craft, his art. For Poor, Dejected Souls Yet Herbert had in view more than the joys of his own soul as he wrote. He wrote (and dreamed of publishing after death) with a view of serving the church. As he said to his friend Nicholas Ferrar, ā[If you] can think it may turn to the advantage of any dejected poor soul, let it be made public.ā And this is, in fact, what has happened. People have met God in Herbertās poems, and their lives have been changed. Joseph Summers said of Herbertās poems, āWe can only recognize . . . the immediate imperative of the greatest art: āYou must change your lifeāā (George Herbert, 190). Simone Weil, the twentieth-century French philosopher, was totally agnostic toward God and Christianity but encountered Herbertās poem āLove (III)ā and became a kind of Christian mystic, calling this poem āthe most beautiful poem in the worldā (English Poems of George Herbert, xxi). Love (III) Love bade me welcome: yet my soul drew back, Guiltie of dust and sinne. But quick-eyād Love, observing me grow slack From my ļ¬rst entrance in, Drew nearer to me, sweetly questioning If I lackād any thing. A guest, I answerād, worthy to be here: Love said, you shall be he. I the unkinde, ungratefull? Ah my deare, I cannot look on thee. Love took my hand, and smiling did reply, Who made the eyes but I? Truth Lord, but I have marrād them: let my shame Go where it doth deserve. And know you not, sayes Love, who bore the blame? My deare, then I will serve. You must sit down, sayes Love, and taste my meat: So I did sit and eat. Herbert had struggled all his life to know that Loveās yoke is easy and its burden is light. He had come to ļ¬nd that this is true. And he ended his poems and his life with an echo of the most astonishing expression of it in all the Bible: The King of kings will ādress himself for service and have them recline at table, and he will come and serve themā (Luke 12:37). You must sit down, sayes Love, and taste my meat: So I did sit and eat. This is the end of the matter. No more striving. No more struggle. No more āspiritual conļ¬icts [passing] betwixt God and my soul.ā Instead, Love himself serves the poetās soul as he sits and receives. Words as a Way of Seeing Worth George Herbert found, as most poets have, that the eļ¬ort to put the glimpse of glory into striking or moving words makes the glimpse grow. The poetic eļ¬ort to say beautifully was a way of seeing beauty. The eļ¬ort to ļ¬nd worthy words for Christ opens to us more fully the worth of Christ ā and the experience of the worth of Christ. As Herbert says of his own poetic eļ¬ort, āIt is that which, while I use, I am with thee.ā āThe poetic eļ¬ort to speak the riches of Godās greatness gave Herbert deeper sight into that greatness.ā I will close with an exhortation for everyone who is called to speak about great things. It would be fruitful for your own soul, and for the people you speak to, if you also made a poetic eļ¬ort to see and savor and show the glories of Christ. I donāt mean the eļ¬ort to write poetry. Very few are called to do that. I mean the eļ¬ort to see and savor and show the glories of Christ by giving some prayerful eļ¬ort to ļ¬nding striking, penetrating, and awakening ways of saying the excellencies that we see. Preachers have this job supremely. But all of us, Peter says, are called out of darkness to āproclaim the excellenciesā (1 Peter 2:9). And my point here for all of us is that the eļ¬ort to put the excellencies into worthy words is a way of seeing the worth of the excellencies. The eļ¬ort to say more about the glory than you have ever said is a way of seeing more than you have ever seen. Therefore, I commend poetic effort to you. And I commend one of its greatest patrons, the poet-pastor George Herbert. Article by John Piper